Every Dad

Aloha My Brothers,

I have been both blessed and challenged each week as I meet with my fraternity brothers here in Hawaii. While doing this new series by Robert Lewis – WINNING AT WORK & HOME, I find myself looking in the mirror and asking God to further my understanding as to finding who the real DAD is looking back. As men, we have three different faces we hide behind. The Public face, where everyone sees us, The Personnel Face, where you allow some to see you, and finally, The private Face, where only you see yourself, as does God. As Dad’s, let us be challenged to truly pick the face the most fits us as we hold the most Honorable title a man can ever be called - DAD.

"WHAT EVERY DAD NEEDS TO KNOW"

The most honorable title a man can ever get to be called, is “DAD”

These are our children speaking to us. Remember, you are looking into that mirror, and the one looking back is your child. Here are ten things they will say. How do you really respond? God already knows how you responded, and yes, we have all failed somewhere in these ten areas. Here we go……

1. Dad, I need to know, somebody must be there for me, in my early years.

It will make a blueprint for their life.
2. Dad, I need a balance of Discipline, Instruction and Love growing up.

3. Dad, I need you to know my Personality and honor it. The sooner, the better.

4. Dad, I need you to discover my Bent (Gifts Prov. 22.6), and actively support it.

5. Dad, I need you to know too Much is too Much

A. Too Much Control crushes or incites.

B. Too Much Money spoils and pacifies.

C. Too high Expectations discourage.

6. Dad, I need you to show me what to believe by Living it.

7. Dad, I need you to know your words can Wound me for a lifetime.

8. Dad, I need you to adjust your leadership Style to me as I grow.

AGES IN YEARS:

A. 0-13: COACH = directing

B. 13-18: CHEELEADER/COUNSELOR = encouraging, problem solving

C. 18 up: CONSULTANT = listening, supporting

9. Dad, I need you to make some great Memories with me to live on.

10. Dad, I need you to Love God and share Him with me.

If you don’t feel that any one of these applies to you as a dad, take this last step for your final understanding as to where you stand as a dad.

Ask your child or children to evaluate you as a dad. Tell them to be specific about what you do well and what you need to do better. After you ask – then Listen! This will give you a better understanding how your child or children really see you and our true faces we wear. You will find that God’s grace and love he has for us is the same yesterday, today and will be tomorrow. Being a Dad, is truly the best and Honorable title we can ever be called…. Please continue to challenge that person looking back at you, each and every morning you look into the mirror. This is just to continue to keep us all accountable with God in a very special and honorable way. Blessings my Fellow Dad's….

Serving Him,
Kevin Mahoney
NEHIM - Founder